By Barbara J Stepp, Premier Coach,Master Trainer NLP, DHE®, Clinical Hypnotherapist
While I will be offering Ideas and suggestions to assist in having vibrant health and energy, I intend in no way to offer this as a replacement for medical treatment or doctors, but as a compliment. I often work with the doctors of my clients. Since I found one who believes in possibilities and above all, hope, I work with mine as well. I am here today because of working with my doctor and applying the magic of NLP and Hypnosis.
Dr. Richard Bandler, genius and father of NLP, has often said that NLP and Hypnosis work together and he didn’t see how anyone could teach or use NLP without Hypnosis. So, in these writings, I will be referring to both and how to use them to have more vibrant health and also in healing. As you read it you may find this text uncomplicated and very simple, with useful suggestions, and it is. My favorite acronym, KISS…….Keep it Simple, Sweetie says it all.
NLP is about how the brain works and how language operates on the brain.
Our brain inputs information processes and outputs it through the five senses: the major three being Visual…..that is what we see or imagine; Auditory….what we say or hear, and Kinesthetic, what we feel; visceral (inner feelings or sensations) and tactile (touch). So it follows that our language and imagination creates our states and reality.
Our, internal (thoughts) and external (spoken word) fire off biochemicals in the brain that are critical to our health and well-being. And creatively using our imagination can and often does create our reality.
Dave Dobson, PhD, psychologist, hypnotherapist and my husband, often said that we are our own best hypnotist. What? You might say. How? Because there exists a part of our mind that is conscious and a larger part that is Unconscious or Other Than Conscious™ and out of our awareness. That’s the part of us that causes our heart to beat, breath while we sleep, promotes cell division and more. It exists to solve problems and help us to be a successful, well functioning “critter”, according to Dave.*
When we think, speak or imagine, we are literally programming our Other Than Conscious Mind™ (referred to as OTC in further text), which is not the least bit rational or judgmental but very literal, purposeful and obedient.
Dr. Milton Ericson, father of American medical hypnosis, once said to a group of clinicians, “Your patients will be your patients as long as their conscious and unconscious minds are not in rapport”. Hypnosis is language and helps us to resolve that conflict and incongruence.
Our State of mind is very important and helps us keep our minds and bodies healthy. Since we do not live in the moment of reality, but nano-seconds after it, we are given the power and opportunity to choose our own responses to “reality”, or any stimulus. That is, choose how we think about it, imagine it, and our state…. how we feel.
We can stay well by insuring that we focus on excellent health and wellness. You’ve heard, “Be careful what you ask for because you might get it.” “Self fulfilling prophecy and what you focus on is what you get”, is real.
Believing anything is possible, having a wonderful sense of humor with hope, happiness, tenacity and determination mixed in is a key to good health and healing. Begin to find humor all around you. Look for joy everywhere and laugh often and much. Add in imagining, asking for what you want and you have a great combination for vibrant health. **
Here is a useful exercise I created for myself using a combination of NLP, Hypnosis, energy healing and meditation that helped me not only heal but also manage my energy and realize hopes, dreams, desires:
Find a comfortable spot to settle in; a comfy chair in any position except lying down. Close your eyes and imagine a grounding cord coming from the base of your spine and down into the earth. So you begin to feel calm, balanced, grounded.
Now imagine that you can sense the energy in your body and mind because you can. Begin to send any unwanted, unproductive energy down the grounding cord into the earth’s energy where it neutralizes. Remember that your Unconscious or OTC™ mind will do what you ask it to. Feel golden healing light entering your body into your crown and filling your body. Any area that needs extra attention will receive it.
As you get more and more comfortable, blank out any images that do not serve you. While you are relaxing, visualize exactly what you desire. Make it a clear, focused bright image and make any adjustments you want. Experiment with color movement, location, make it bigger, etc. Add movement and if you want add sound….surround sound. It’s your brain and your image after all. Make it compelling so that you feel WOW! Now you have your own image of your desire that you can see whenever you want. You can access the grounding cord and your own fabulous imagination in a valuable, useful way any time.
Conversely, enemies of good health can be stress, worry, fear, anger (a dance step of fear) and of course, external stressors. Since we are response-able adults we are able to choose our responses; what’s important is that is not what happens to you, it’s what you do and how you respond that matters.
While I am not claiming NLP and Hypnosis will heal you, there are many documented cases of people using them to get/stay well and many examples of spontaneous remission. Mine was simply an ordinary one. Many years ago, I was diagnosed with a “terminal illness.” (Note to self….always get more than one opinion. And resist suggestions of hopelessness from anyone in a white coat.) Dr. Bandler did an age regression, took me back in time to a past pleasant memory and I came forward without the illness. He didn’t know about the “disease”, he just did a hypnotic beauty treatment. It didn’t end there.
When it came to the “pain” or discomfort, I began to notice the color of the pain and move it a bit. When you can move it, you can begin to change it, even mute it. Exhale that color and inhale your favorite color. Notice how much control you have. This has worked for me and has worked for many. Of course, get a medical check-up if you do not know the source of the discomfort.
Talking about one’s ill health or problems only makes one expert at them. We can interrupt unproductive thinking patterns by cancelling unproductive language. Take a deep breath and change your words for example, “cancel that. What I want to say is…. (Your words). Ask better questions like, “How can I feel better now? What’s the best thing for me to do now? Questions can interrupt the pattern and direct our thoughts. Or simply do something different; anything different.
Questions direct our focus. I developed a pattern every morning upon awakening of saying, “God, take this day, guide me” and asked myself these questions, “How can I make this a great day? What do I get to do today? What can I do today to make a loving, powerful difference in the world?” I do this every day. It certainly begins a day full of possibilities and has helped me maintain my health and energy.
I began to ask for what I want instead of what I don’t want. I didn’t give that diagnosis or word any recognition. I asked for any impurities to leave and to have a strong, healthy, clean mind and body. To facilitate that and have more energy at the same time, I did this breathing exercise twice a day; Inhale a deep belly breath, hold it for a count of 5 and exhale slower than the inhale….8 to 10 counts. It kept oxygen in my system longer.
Using my language purposefully, imagining healthy organs, meditating, energy healing, self-hypnosis and valuable nutritional patterns, I had a remission. At 73, I continue to teach, train and coach in corporate, as well as private sectors. Over the years, I have been called by my peers and friends, “Fairy Godmother of NLP who teaches with a heart.” Friend and Master Trainer, Kate Benson named me “Wonder Woman”, John LaValle, Society of NLP™ President, calls me “Feisty Lady” and “Tough old broad’.” compliments, I am certain. That’s what I choose to believe.
I think it’s because I am tenacious and determined, (okay, stubborn) and according to Dr. Richard Bandler, to get well and stay well these qualities are needed. I believe it is about the power of our mind. I have already offered several ideas for good health and healing and will offer more that I used for optimum health and healing that you can use for yourself.
But first, here are a few more examples of healing experiences of my clients in forty years of client work. There are so many more. They did the work themselves and I acted as a tour guide or facilitator:
In 2005, Tom Tepiew, a Menominee Medicine man mentioned that, while in my NLP Practitioner Course he could only sit in one location in the room, or he would see two of me. Realizing that one of me is more than enough, I said.” fine as long as you’re comfortable.” He later mentioned that he saw double, had dizzy spells, headaches and had struggled to read since the 60’s. The letters jumped around. He had suffered a head injury in Viet Nam.
I demonstrated hypnosis and the NLP Eye Enhancement with Tom. Right there in front of an amazed class and trainer, the dizziness disappeared as did the double vision. That evening, he read 30 pages in a book for the first time since his injury. And here we are seven years later; Tom is still here but the double vision, headaches and dizzy spells are gone. He believed it was miraculous and it was.
In 1996 Diane, Chicago real estate developer was diagnosed with a dangerous cyst on her thyroid gland. She was told the surgery was necessary, would probably damage her vocal cords and she might lose her ability to speak. Using self hypnosis and, Exercise 1 in this chapter while visualizing a healthy thyroid gland, it shrunk so tiny it was inoperable. Surgery was never necessary.
Violet had a liver disease. She was on a last trial medication, and nothing had worked so far. The big test was coming up and she was worried about the results. She came to me in 2010 and we had a nice talk with her liver while she visualized it healthy. Her test was very positive as it had improved tremendously.
For many years I have suggested that my client go to one of my favorite books, Grays Anatomy because as an artist, I used it for reference even before my NLP learnings. In it are excellent illustrations of healthy organs. Of course, the internet has many resources and illustrations of healthy organs now. Simply visualize yours looking like that. It works!
Our OTC™ or Unconscious mind is extremely powerful and we can program it with precise, specific language detailing what we want. Precise, specific, purposeful are key words here. Do it deliberately with purpose.
Bedtime brings an excellent opportunity to program your OTC™ mind. When you sleep, your conscious mind and any resistance is out of the way. Since your OTC™ is on the job 24/7, you will be directing/programming it without interference. Don’t be surprised and delighted when valuable ideas, spontaneous thoughts and constructive suggestions just pop in.
The following exercise works for any goal, especially for health and healing.
Decide what you want, write it down and write it until it says exactly what you want in 25 words or less…..Precisely, Specifically and Delightfully. Then reduce it until you have one word that emulates or becomes an anchor for what you desire. You will remember that we design our reality with our language.
Just before falling asleep think of that word, see it inside your mind, take a deep breath, close your eyes, roll them up toward the top of your head, feel that eye strain,(and anchor for self hypnosis) then forget about your eyes, forget about your breathing……part of your mind has been taking care of you all these years, day in and day out and you can trust in that creative part of you as you drift into a comfortable sleep deeply and you know you can awaken at the appropriate time for you.
For 40 have years it has been my joy to be a people helper, to facilitate self-healing, excellent health and well-being with my clients, students, friends and family.
I believe we should utilize anything and everything to have good health and energy and offer this text as a resource; another choice for living in the world of infinite possibilities, unlimited beliefs and hope. I have offered these choices and more with deep respect to my thousands of clients and now humbly offer them to you.
To your health, hope and happiness!!
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*Beach Trip by Dr. Dave Dobson
**Adventure into Health by Dr. Richard Bandler